Friday, December 01, 2006
Have all of us,subconsciously or not,lose faith in sustaining relationships?
During our parents' black-and-white days,women were expected to marry the first guy they met and pledge to stay together forever.But our generation is a cynical bunch.Increasingly, when we hear about newly-formed couples,we would all go,"I give them three months,six tops." Why the scepticism?(i'm scepticism at times too) Are we too consumed by HEADS- the Happily-Ever-After Deficiency Syndrome, that we've grown bored of love and butterflies-in-the-stomach feeling it brings?
Of course, there are exceptions.There are still hopeless romantics who shed tears of joy when they find out their butchers' daughter finally got hitched to the man of her dreams.They're also the ones who genuinely believe their own Prince Charming is still out there even after failed relationships(im included here). And when Prince Charming does finally arrive, he will stay by their sides and protect them from evil relatives and fire-breathing bosses.
Most of us call them too idealistic,immature even.But the presence of these hopeless romantics injects a dash of hope into today's otherwise sad love stories.Accounts of unhappy couples and broken marriages are surfacing quicker than Brangelina(Bratt pitt and Angelina) can walk down the aisle, if ever. I have friends who have been single up till now,not because they haven't found the right one but because they're afraid of getting hurt.(im very scared of this f.y.i)
I dare say most of us crave intimacy and stable relationships, but there's just this niggling fear in us that makes us hold back from truly believing that what we want is possible. Perhaps we've been betrayed by someone we trusted or perhaps we've seen couples close to us-even our parents- go their seperate ways after solid years of romance. I,in fact contracted HEADS after witnessing seemingly happy couples head to Splitsville without any danger signs.But that does not mean I have stopped believing in the fairytale romance altogether.
marfi @ 12:07 AM